How do others see me? Do they see me in the way that I want them to? At my site I assume that I am perceived in a way that is different to the way, say my family perceives me at home. I believe that at my site, others view me as the “British girl” who is quiet, shy and kind. I get this impression simply because that’s what I’ve been told. So what’s with Identity? Who am I? Do I come across as a different person to what I perceive. Me. Quiet, shy, kind. I dress according to the environment I am in. I dress to be apart of the role I am required to be. Dressing in black which to others I guess connotes the idea of authority and power. Yet do my interactions with fellow employees affect the way that I am portrayed?
Others see me and create judgments about me by the way I portray my sense of self. At work I am fun, I laugh a lot and tend to always have a smile . I guess this gives off the impression to others that I am an approachable person. I would say the happiness and laughter that I contribute to our work environment with others views helps create and establish that sense of family.
I value the essence of helping and respecting others which I try to implement at work. Helpfulness. Kindness. Respect. Love. I guess this is a foundation or a definition of family right?
Always looking for the good within people, helps me analyze a person and what they are like. Not judging a book. But do others judge me? Being British, I guess they think that I don’t understand things that they say sometimes. Is this a barrier in my identity? They see the public I more than the private me.
Laughable, sweet, kind, quiet, fun, caring. That’s what I hope they perceive me to be. But is it really? I’m punctual and hard working and when others aren’t I guess it annoys me. Do I judge them for not doing the same as me? Seeing my friend at work for the first time, I judged her. Skinny girl, long brown hair. Hardly spoke to me. I considered the idea she was stuck up and rude. I was wrong. So if I judged her, she judged me, right? What did she see?
I’m quiet compared to them and I can see that they notice.
Identity. Its complex. Private I and Public Me, very hard to differentiate....
Hey Harveen!
ReplyDeleteI really appreciate how you question how others judge you, but also how you judge others. And how your judgement of others effects you. Thats a really thought provoking statement! However it would have been cool if you elaborated on the "foundation or definition of family". You described it as being helpfulness, kindness, respect, and love. That is so interesting that you didn't say lineage, blood, or marriage! I love the definition you gave though!
Hey I really enjoyed reading your post! There are statements you wrote that I feel I can really relate to such as the fact that you realize you do not act the same at work then you do at home with your family. Its almost as if you are "fitting the role" that the environment gives you. I find myself in the same situations. This is a really great post!
ReplyDeleteHey, girl.
ReplyDeleteA very contemplative post, that's eager to ask questions and really try n' navigate the complexities of identity. I'm so glad that you're asking yourself questions n' really trying to consider the image you portray to others. I'm stoked to see what sort of material you generate for this project!